Premature Ejaculation

[livingwith]

well, i started doing penis exercises ( jelqin etc… ) but i had problems with the kegels ( pc exercises ) -
the problem was and is that i am having premature ejaculation . then i started making a research on the internet and found articles saying that kegels cause premature ejaculation . so i stoped doing it. although i found another website mentioning that kegels will make men ejaculating fastlty just at the begning, after some time it will certly delay men ejaculation. So my friends, wh...Read the full article

[gb521]

First and foremost, see a Urologist!! Don't trust the Internet entirely. Only a local doctor familiar with YOUR situation can give you truly accurate advice.

Remember, he's a doctor. he's probably seen or heard it all. So drop you "shame" (actually a form of pride) and tell him what's going on.

Now, my doctor told me that the majority of premature ejaculation problems are mental. He says that they are usually caused by "extra excitement" caused by situations surrounding the act, for example, an urge to get done quickly due to a perceived danger of getting caught.

After some serious discussions with my wife, we determined that making love in our house was a big stress problem - kids, kittens, telephone, "Let's get this done before Leno comes on", and so on. What we ended up doing was making a committed "date time" at least once a month -- more if we can afford it. Let grandma stay with the kids and the cats, and we take off to a Motel 6 Friday and Saturday, come home Sunday after church. Leave the cell phones at home; turn off the TV.

For us, that in itself was enough to cure the problem. Just providing one or two nights a month where we have NOTHING to do except make love -- slowly -- has cured the problem for the rest of the time!

You say nothing about your relationship with yout partner. My doctor also said that the stress of a non-committed relationship can be a big stressor. He claims that in his experience he has found that PE occurs more often in men who are single-and-dating, as opposed to men who are in a married or in a committed monogamous relationship. He got a little crude, and said, "There's just not enough time to ---- everything in sight." SO, you might want to examine your relationship(s) for "conquest" factor.

And if all else fails, my doctor says there ARE medications that can be used for this situation, medicines better than the "anti-sensitivity cremes" fond on the internet.

But please, dude, see a doctor! Your problem is not "shameful" (except maybe to you), you're not "sick", and you're not alone.